Motivation: How to Change Your Mindset to Succeed
Often times, when we are working for our goals, they always seem out of reach and no matter how hard you work you can never seem to catch up to your goals. This can be discouraging for most of us, and I admit I’ve often found myself asking, “Why am I doing this?” I lost motivation to keep chasing my dreams and keep working for them. But when I get to that point, I have to take a moment, and ask myself why I am doing this and is it worth putting in the work. And every single time the answer to is it worth the work, is yes. I am going to share with you my process when I get discouraged to help you change your mindset when doubt sets in. And this often times won’t be a onetime fix. You need to change your mindset when you start doubting and you’ll get motivation again, but motivation isn’t always permanent. That’s when you need to take another moment, and start this process again. Motivation is something you need to constantly take care of and maintain periodically. Let’s get into my process on how I change my mindset away from doubt and towards motivation.
Find your “Why”
This is the first step whenever you decide to do anything. Ask yourself why you are doing whatever it is you are doing. Are you doing this for selfish reasons, are you doing it for fun, or are you doing it for the people around you? When you set a goal, in order to achieve that goal, there needs to be a reason why you want to achieve that goal, no matter how big or small. It can be something as small as doing the dishes or taking out the trash or something life altering like getting your college degree or choosing a new career path.
I know that despite the size of the goal you are trying to accomplish, I find I will complete that task if I have someone I want to achieve this goal for. Let me explain this more in depth. We’ll start off with something simple like doing the dishes. If I’m lacking motivation to do anything, often times for myself due to depression (which I will go over more in a different article), I will think that I can push off washing that cup or dish. Then I will repeat that same thought process again and again until my sink is full, then I really don’t want to wash dishes because it’s seems like a daunting task. But I guarantee, that if I have a friend or someone going to come over in an hour or sometime that day, I’m going to do the dishes before they get there.
This type of reasoning might not be the healthiest or best way to change your mindset, but it’s a first step in my opinion. We as humans are social creatures and we need others to be successful and to be happy. If you have a goal and you can share your achievement with friends or family, those people who drive you and push you, you will begin to develop that drive for yourself. After practicing that mindset of asking yourself “Why am I doing this?” you will begin to say “I do this for this specific person or these specific people.” You will develop a mindset of not wanting to let this person or people you care for down and they will give you strength to keep moving forward. Build on that strength by turning thought of letting people down, into a selfless thought, by instead of letting them down, you want to accomplish a goal in order to lift them up.
But after a while, you will be able to turn that strength others have given you, into inner strength. You begin to say “I’m doing this for myself.” You will still want to share your achievement with those you care about, which is great, but when you do it for yourself, you are ready to start the next step.
You have decided you wanted to do something for yourself but it’s a scary thought. Doubt begins to set in again and you start to question yourself. That is when you have to believe in yourself. Believe in the strength that you have found in others that has transformed into inner strength, which is the human spirit. This is what drives us and makes us human. It makes us want to constantly improve upon what we were yesterday and be better today. You have to believe in yourself and that no matter how many failures you may face, that you will achieve your goal. You have to envision yourself accomplishing your goal and hold on to that vision. You have to see it clearly in your mind’s eye and believe that your work will get you there. You need to hold on to that belief and then go into the next step of the process.
Focus and Determination
You have now found strength to achieve your goal and believe that you can achieve it. Now you have to focus on that goal and be determined to get there. You need to look at that goal every day and focus on that goal and be determined to work for it. Every day you want to work to be one step closer to your goal. I don’t care if you take even an inch forward, as long as you are moving in a straight line and are one inch closer today than you were yesterday in achieving your goal, you’re on your way to winning. But you have to be determined to make that journey by focusing on the end goal. Every day say out loud to yourself when you first get up in the morning, what your goal is and why you are working towards that goal. By doing this daily affirmation, you are validating yourself to yourself. This may seem redundant, but often times we are our own worst enemy. We stand in our own way by saying something is too hard or we make excuses as to why we fail and we give up. So, focus on the goal every day, despite failure, and reaffirm your goal to yourself and get out of your own way.
This is one of the hardest parts of the process. The previous parts help get you moving out of your mindset of doubt and towards motivation, but this part is the key to success. You need to decide for yourself if you are strong enough. You need to decide if you have the character to continue on to success. You have to decide if you’re willing to put in the work and go beyond any talent. You have to decide if you want your goal and you have to decide if you are willing to put in the work. You have to decide if you are willing to push back against failure. You have to decide if you are willing to fight for your success. No one can make that choice for you, but I promise if you decide to push for your goal and work until you have achieved it, you will not regret one step of the way.
Hopefully you have decided to bet on yourself and, now the final step in the process, is to persevere. You need to keep going, and find that strength to take that one more step forward. I’m not going to lie to you, but it’s going to be hard but you are strong enough to do it. I believe in you. I know that you, the person reading this, is strong enough to achieve your goal. You have to keep moving forward in your life, because that is what life is about. It is about every day being better than you were yesterday. It is about choosing to do the right thing, even if it is hard. It is about believing in yourself and finding a way to push forward. When you are having doubt, especially in yourself, look at the good around you. Find and focus on the good things in your life, no matter how small it may seem. I don’t mean material things either but in the actions of others, the innocence of a child or the pure love of a pet. You find the strength of character from inside of you, but you find the will to persevere in those around you. That is how you succeed and how to get out of the mindset of doubt and change it to a mindset of success.
That is how I find motivation and I hope this process will help you all in finding motivation to achieve your goals. Figure out why you want your goal. Believe in yourself and in your strength of character. Focus on your goal and never lose sight of it. Decide on achieving your goal and persevere until you do. And remember, I believe in you, so believe in yourself and stay motivated.
If you ever need any help in finding your motivation, leave me a comment or send me a message and I’ll do my best to help you in whatever way I can.
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